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Journey to change(WHEN I HATED MY DAD 2)

Did you know that hurting people hurt people... take a while to let that sink.. any one who has been hurt knowingly or unknowingly hurts others either by shutting them out,venting out frustrations on them or by out rightly doing or saying things that end up hurting another person...a vicious circle eh. This revelation was what did it for me... The only way I could embrace change was understand why I had to change not just for me..But for my dad..He was hurting...and I was hurting too The moment I began to see things in that light..the easier it was for me to begin the process. I wanted things to be different,I wanted the loving father daughter relationship I wanted peace at home...and only God's intervention could change the way things where. I remember at that point praying for help and it felt like God was saying are you ready to let me in..to allow me remake you like the potter repairs a marred clay...yes I cried over and over again and He said very well then..Le

When I hated my Dad

In the early hours of the morning,just as I was all cuddled up and enjoying the sweetness of my restful sleep...I was jolted back to reality by what sounded like my ring tone...yes..it was indeed my phone ringing... Who is calling me at this time I thought..It was 4am UK time.. yes who could have been calling..I knew too well who... My Father....Just as he had called a week ago...and the week before! It was an all too familiar ritual..the early morning calls... "Stella babe...how are you,just wanted to find out how you guys are doing.." Thinking about it now brings a big smile to my face..He would call each of his children.. one after the other,just to say hello.. A friend noted while talking about my dad of how fond we are of each other,yes I love my dad..He is a great and loving Father. As I look back at how the years have made our relationship stronger...I also remember a time when I truly hated my dad...a time when we didn't have much of a relationship